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declares the LORD,
"plans to prosper you
and not to harm you,
to give you a
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Jeremiah 29:11

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Tim Reside
Executive Director

BOARD OF DIRECTORS:

Jim Grinnell
President

Tim Peterson

Gary Fisher
In Memoriam
Chronic Pain: Unipolar & Bipolar Depression
          We're all familiar with Charles Dickens' curmudgeonly character, Ebenezer Scrooge, and his sour Bah humbug! Some of my friends and I might appear to be Scrooges from time to time, and particularly at this time of year. Our presence at family gatherings, social and/or church events, can sometimes tend to put a damper on things for you while you are delighting in the festivities of the season. "Thanksgiving—what is there to be thankful for?" "Merry Christmas—what is there to be merry about?" "Happy New Years—what is there to be happy about and/or to look forward to?"

          The family and friends of those living with the challenges of unipolar (major depression) and bipolar disorders tend over time to become less surprised by their loved one’s mood swings, periods of heightened agitation, times of emotional instability and/or erratic behavior. What may not be appreciated is that many of these loved ones also deal with chronic psyche pain. The word psyche has reference to what is often termed mind, spirit or soul. In psychiatry the word psyche is often used to refer to the mind as the center of thought, emotion, and behavior.

          Stephen Bernhardt, himself living with bipolar disorder, writes that "the psyche pain of deep depression is real; it is not unlike the mental equivalent of having a root canal performed without benefit of a pain killer, this continues day after day. The pain is cumulative, ever present, and without end.
 
          It affects your very being, your essence, your soul, and you may embrace death to end that which seems to have no end in life." Not all of us are continually, or to the same degree, experiencing this type of pain—there are some who do not speak of such pain at all—but many do.

          Many challenged with chronic unipolar depression and bipolar-depression (the downward spiral of the manic-depressive disorder) experience psyche pain. These types of depression are sometimes referred to as "endogenous depressions." Such depressions do not appear to be caused by outside stimuli; rather they appear to be caused from within. It may be due to the chemical imbalance in our brains induced by our broken-brain physiology, lots of little things accumulating, too much obsessive thinking about a particular issue—or a mix of all of these.

          One of the important goals of recovery for my friends—and myself—is to learn how to better monitor our symptoms in order to discover the warning signs and the thought patterns and/or practices that serve as triggers for what our doctors call decompensating—the functional deterioration of what was previously working for us. Most of us really want to learn how to better cope and manage. I thought you might want to know that it is possible that from time to time you might be observing a manifestation of chronic psyche pain.

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"The BTSG not only equips me to deal with my mental disorder, but also builds me up each Thursday night."
 

"In the past year, God has helped me with a chronic problem of worry and anxiety. Through prayer, things that previously would have persistently troubled my mind—they no longer do so to anywhere near the same extent."

 

"In the last year I have learned I am battling with depression. But I have also learned that sometimes we have to lose control to give God the control."

 
 

"The BTSG with Tim & Nancy has helped me to honestly face the challenge I have with bipolar disorder and to integrate who I am as a child of God in Christ with what I deal with in my “matter” body and affected soul."

 
       
"The BTSG not only equips me to deal with my mental disorder, but also builds me up each Thursday night."
 
 

"The Tim & Nancy [consultation sessions] with my spouse and me have really helped both of us to understand our problems concerning my disorder."

 
 

 

"Since coming to BTSG, I have improved dramatically! I'm tracking my symptoms better which is helping me manage my illnesses better. I'm learning more about God and how His word applies directly to my illnesses than I ever did the entire time I was being raised in church. I'm starting to have a love for others that I never had before. This is a real change of heart and mind for me …. I also have a group of Christians I can safely meet with who share my struggles and inspire me. And I have two group leaders to look up to—to see the possibility of what can be."
 

 


"In the last year God has helped me with not being afraid of my scary dreams, thoughts—having less of them— [and also with] patience, growing up, sharing & spreading the seed."

 

"Being a part of the BTSG during this last year has helped me grow in mental and spiritual maturity. I believe it has been very beneficial to me!!"

 
 
"Coming to the BTSG helps me to know that I’m not alone and [that there are] people to help and share with my trials and tribulations."
     

 

Mission Update Report
BT in 2008 will be offering: (1) A weekly Christian Depression and Bipolar Support Group for adults that incorporates education and support for the person learning to manage their disorder within the context of their faith. Scriptural encouragement and prayer are utilized; (2) A monthly How To Survive & Overcome Depression and Bipolar Disorders program (further details below); (3) Tuesday evening Family-to-Family Consultation sess-ions — by appointment only; (4) Bi-monthly Breakfast Seminars for professional and/or lay ministers and ministry leaders—at no charge; and (5) A Speakers Bureau that provides qualified speakers for mental health education programs. For more information, please phone, e-mail or check our website.

SOMETHING NEW:
Beginning January 3, the first Thursday support group meeting of each month will be devoted to the presentation of a Tim & Nancy Reside educational program:
How To Survive & Overcome Depression and Bipolar Disorders.

The program will be facilitated by PowerPoint slides and syllabi will be provided at no charge — donations accepted. This program is open to our regular attendees, caregiving family and friends, as well as to the general public. The location is in the Fireside Room of the Family Life Center on the campus of Evangelistic Temple Church at 5345 So. Peoria Avenue in Tulsa, Oklahoma. (View Map)

BT is happy to announce that funds for a PowerPoint projector, accompanying DVD/VHS player unit together with extension speakers were provided by caring friends and supporters of this ministry. We are taking full advantage of this equipment and are upgrading the quality of our presentations as a result. Thank You!

BT's August 30th Ministers breakfast seminar was a presentation on Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) by Jeff Riggenbach, Ph.D., LPC.

Jeff's presentation provided vital information on how to effectively respond and minister to these hurting people and their loved ones while at the same time minimizing liability.

BT's Executive Director, Tim Reside presented A Prescription for Recovery: Fostering Redemptive Stories at the October 18th breakfast seminar. Tim presented an integrative storytelling method for helping those suffering pain related to crisis and/or the challenge of mental illness find healing and recovery in the Gospel Story.

EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR CALENDAR UPDATE:
Tim Reside is now a third year Doctor of Ministry student and invested in an applied research project. If you would like to invest in this educational effort, please make checks payable to Bright Tomorrows, designated "Education Fund." • Tim was recently nominated and subsequently elected to the TULSA AREA PACT ADVISORY COUNCIL.
The Advisory Council supports the continuing development, implementation and operations of the PACT (Program in Assertive Comm-unity Treatment) programs in Tulsa County.

These are "hospital without walls" programs that respond to some of the area’s most critical psychiatric health care needs for people who are dealing with chronic challenges and have minimal to no means of helping themselves. Council members include representatives of mental health related organizations, housing authorities, the legislature, the legal community, the medical community, law enforcement and faith based entities. Tim is one of the first to ever be elected as a representative of a "faith based entity."

BT TOP TWO NEEDS:
1. BT PRAYER PARTNERS!
2. BT SUPPORT PARTNERS!

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Chronic Pain: Unipolar & Bipolar Depression
          Some of us deal with suicidal thoughts during periods like this. Please know that just because we are going through a time of difficult depression does not automatically mean we are thinking about suicide—or that if the thoughts come, we are necessarily thinking in terms of follow-through. However, your love and concern can help us to monitor ourselves in healthy ways. We hope you’ll take the time to discover what the signs are that suggest we are in real trouble and need help.
Here are some tips on how to talk to a person in crisis. You could save a life.
  • Stay calm. Take deep breaths. Pray softly for wisdom. Talk slowly and use reassuring tones. Take them seriously.
  • Don’t take your loved one’s actions or hurtful words personally.
  • Say, “I’m here. I care. I want to help. How can I help you?” Don’t say, “Snap out of it,” “Get over it,” or “Stop acting crazy.”
  • Realize that you may have trouble communicating with your loved one. Ask simple questions. Repeat them if necessary, using the same words each time.
  • Remind them that suicidal thoughts are temporary. Suicide is permanent. Remind them that their feelings of hopelessness are not the truth—the mind is lying to them and these thoughts are not their fault but are part of a treatable medical illness.
  • Don’t handle the crisis alone. Call family, friends, neighbors, people from your place of worship or people from a local support group to help you.
  • Don’t threaten to call 911 unless you intend to. When you call 911, police and/or an ambulance are likely to come to your house. This may make your loved one more upset, so use 911 only when you or someone else is in immediate danger.
  • In Tulsa County C.O.P.E.S. (Crisis Outreach Psychiatric Emergency Services is a 24/7 available emergency intervention service: Ph. 918.744.4800)
  • Tulsa Help Line: Just Dial 211 or 918.836.4357; National Hopeline Network Number & Website: 1-800-784-2433 (1-800-SUICIDE); http://www.hopeline.com/
  • National Suicide Prevention Lifeline Numbers: 1-800-273-TALK; 1-800-273-8255; 1-888-628-9454 Spanish
          On our Bright Tomorrows website (www.brighttomorrows.org) there is a “Help Links” section where you can discover good resources and other helpful websites. I suggest the “Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance” website www.dbsalliance.org. It will help you with learning how to recognize signs and how to be prepared. I am indebted to this site for a significant portion of what I’ve presented here in this bullet point format. I do, however, assume full responsibility for modifications. Thanks for caring!
Tim Reside is the Executive Director of Bright Tomorrows and has been active in pastoral ministry for over 35 years. Tim received his M.A. in Practical Theology from Oral Roberts University and is currently a doctoral candidate in the Doctor of Ministry program at O.R.U. Tim has been successfully coping with and overcoming bipolar illness since 1979.
   
 
Christian Depression and Bipolar Support Group
Thursday Evenings from 7:00 - 8:30 P.M.
 
 
"Mobilizing the Church to better serve
those with mental health concerns."
 
This weekly event is held at Evangelistic Temple Church in the Fireside room on the 2nd floor of the Family Life Center. E.T. is located at 5345 South Peoria Avenue • Tulsa, Oklahoma.
For a detailed map and complete driving directions please View Map.
 
Contact us at:
Bright Tomorrows Fellowship
5630 South Boston Avenue
Tulsa, Oklahoma 74105-7725
Phone: (918) 744-5761
E-mail: treside@brighttomorrows.org
Website: www.brighttomorrows.org